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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Nip Whining in the Bud Early, PLEASE

I really dislike whining ... so much so that if one were to whine to me about something he or she needed, that individual would be almost guaranteed not to obtain the desired object or service using that action (I say almost as there are times when a higher power trumps my will). It's a personal failing, perhaps.

Professionals label whining as a behavioral disorder of childhood, a control problem that may manifest itself as: oppositional or other forms of disruptive behavior, temper tantrums, overactivity, or excessive whining. These hard-eyed professional folk further label this as a problem of parents who have an inability to set limits. At times it may also be a symptom of serious parental, marital, or family dysfunction.

Setting the professionals aside now, let's get down to the nitty gritty of the matter. Please, parents, set limits while your children are young ... be the parent, not the friend of your child. Your child seeks limits and will be a more assured kid if you provide them. Tell your kids that whining will be the quickest way NOT to get what they want. Make that a rock-ribbed rule of the house, PLEASE. Otherwise, those kids rewarded for whining and temper tantrums will grow up to be insufferable adults who continue to use these dysfunctional behavioral disorders of childhood to try and get their way. They will make everyone around them miserable and resentful. They will be remembered by others as a stain on the social fabric of life. So, please, do us all a favor now and curb this problem. If you have trouble doing so yourself, seek professional help. Save us all from those annoying whining, tantrum throwing adults of the future. To put this in a succinct country-themed summation: Mommas, don't let your babies grow up to be whiners!


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