Come to think of it, given recent turns of events, this box cover and sentiment are both totally appropriate here and now. Oh FFFFudge indeed!!!
Saturday, January 28, 2017
Monday, January 23, 2017
Our family had friends and associates marching in the Women's March in Washington, D.C., Philadelphia, Indianapolis, Los Angeles and San Francisco. We are proud of them and their peaceful marches. Their messages are complex and wide ranging but can be boiled down to wanting the best for humanity in all its forms and for our planet. Thank you all for staying safe and non-violent in your actions. Thank you for following the First Amendment and making sure your voices are heard. Let this lead to inclusive conversation and cooperation across many lines, including party lines in the U.S.
Marches took place on all 7 continents on earth. That has to be a record. Somehow, I imagine, unless things change quickly and suddenly, it is a record that will be topped in the near future.
We need to be mindful of and work hard to avoid using violent communication, which takes on the forms of judging, blaming, finger-pointing, name-calling, bullying, bigotry, discrimination, refusing to listen to learn or to understand another point of view, criticism, hostility (in initial action or reaction, often way out of proportion to any perceived slight), using divisive political/theological rhetoric, being defensive, judging others as evil and hell-bound, deciding who is right and wrong, good and evil, painting whole populations, races, religions, etc. with gross generalizations intended to demean and dehumanize. This is violent communication, which leads to physical violence.
Non-violent communication involves intentionally viewing others differently, refusing to tar people with that broad brush. It starts with seeing people differently. Much of society chooses to see people as basically evil (especially those outside our little in group, whatever that may be). If you choose the path of non-violent communication, you start with the proposition that people are innately good. People start out as being basically empathetic, caring for others, and that it is a violent society and violent individuals within that society that teach people to be something other than their basic human nature. Violent communication, bigotry, greed, and a great many other social ills are learned. When you decide that people are basically evil, you have recast them in your own image rather than seeing them all as much loved children of God (yes, I'm a pastor, and I speak in religious terms but practice non-violent communication here and don't write me off if you are not, as this method works on both the sacred and secular level) or as basically good people if that is your perspective. To be non-violent in communication we see all people (yeah, even those of a different political party) as redeemable people. Nobody is lost. God sees us all as forgivable, redeemable, lovable people and if God can do so, so should we, as we too are sinners. Reaching for non-violent communication means listen to others' perspectives to learn from them, coming to any conversation from the position of here is an opportunity for me to learn and perhaps for my position to evolve. It's a good place to be. Who really wants to go through life with the exact same set of beliefs they had when they were five? We use language to build bridges to others, not to push them away. We need to work toward solutions that are inclusive not exclusive. We want to reach out to as many people as possible, banding together in ever larger groups to use all our combined talents and knowledge for the advancement of us all, for the inclusion of others, for the strengthening of us all.
In an age when people are redefining lies as "alternate truth," we need to step up and work for truth, justice, and love as we understand them. It starts with how we choose to see others and the world around us. It moves on to what we say and do.
I do not want to live in a dystonian future. How about you?
For more on non-violent communication and its influence, see this sermon: https://lansdownebaptistchurch.blogspot.com/2017/01/fishers-of-people.html